Should you ever tell a woman that you love them (even if you actually do)? From my understanding of a woman's nature...

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Should you ever tell a woman that you love them (even if you actually do)? From my understanding of a woman's nature...

Should you ever tell a woman that you love them (even if you actually do)? From my understanding of a woman's nature, as soon as you do so and actually mean it, they begin to lose respect for you because they think that you have settled for them and they are the best you can do.

Divorced from 12 year marriage

In the year since my divorce, have dated a bunch of women

All exhibited the same emotional and hypergamous instincts

I purposefully refrain from letting my gf know how great I think she is. I purposefully refrain from validating her or comforting her about her insecurities. From where I stand, by keeping her emotionally insecure, she continues to feel a sense of excitement and desire for me. It's one big stupid fucking game that I hate playing but I recognize as a necessity. I remain stoic, and never talk about my emotions or how I feel about her. I never talk about what other people are doing, or what we've done in the past. I focus exclusively on my goals and what I'm doing that day. To keep things interesting, I take her out to do fun exciting things. I don't ask her what she wants to do, I just tell her what we're doing.

To this day, she still believes that she likes me more than I like her. She is afraid to tell me she loves me because she thinks I won't reciprocate.

What fucked up your marriage?

Damn that's a lot of words

You are correct. Literally the moment you tell her you love her she is going to get fat

all of this is cope manlets and uglies have to do

Don't take any advice about relationships you see on the Internet

Anon I’ll give you the advice my dad gave me. You don’t marry the one you love, you marry the one that loves you. If she feels like she has to try to keep you, she will. If she feels like she can mistreat you, she will

one big stupid fucking game

Succinct 5 word summary of dating women in general.

Thanks for the analysis Demoralization Bot™!

I take comfort in the knowledge that there are a million introvert women sitting at home not being sluts or ethots, just waiting and hoping to meet and marry an introvert man.

Why not marry the one you love that also loves you? I get what you're saying about remaining desirable to her though, if you lose that, you lose her. Or, you'd be better of losing her if she doesn't still find you desirable. I don't believe playing mind games is the way to do it though. Just make and keep yourself desirable. You would want your wife to do the same.

This is such garbage boomer advice on the same level of "happy wife happy life"

She had terrible contamination OCD. Threatened to leave me for another man. Ended things with her as a result

"Well if you can't be
With the one you love
love the one you're with
Love the one you're with"

Worst pop song life advice ever.

youtu.be/HH3ruuml-R4

Wtf is that pic? Is she just a head with legs?

It's a cunt with a head

Women don't want to be loved.

You don’t have to follow it dipshit. You can just ride the divorce train like everyone else. I’m still married ten years later. Hell maybe if you respect them enough they will pity you enough to respect you back. Kek

Notice how every boomer advice is basically ignore what makes you happy at all costs and just make the woman happy and you like the retard you are buy into that lmao lol kek

I tell my gf that I love her, need her and want to be with her every day. If she ever thought I meant any of that she would be gone that day. Thankfully I have no feelings for her so we can continue being a happy couple

amogus

Never cry in front of a woman.
Never complain about being bullied as a child in front of a woman.
Never tell a woman your worst life/ most embarrassing experience unless it’s funny and you tell it to everyone.
Never directly tell a woman “I love you”.

You indirectly tell a woman I love you when she says I love you and you say “You too”. You always say you too. You must always be the man she’s trying to change. In the movie Ghost the ghost of Patrick Swayze says “ditto” whenever Demi Moore says I love you and she acts like it bothers her but it’s exactly what she wants to hear because he refuses to show weakness. Never give a woman ANY leverage over you. Trust me, the moment you cry or show weakness to a woman she has the upper hand and she loathes you and she’ll never admit it but she’ll act accordingly.

My man. You understand. With the other women I was with, I genuinely didn't care about them. They all became obsessively in love with me. This chick I'm with now, she's great. I genuinely care about her and want her to be in my life for a long time. I just know that if I let her know that, she will immediately become less attracted to me and seek that feeling elsewhere. They're always looking for what more they can get. So, I'm treating her like all the rest, and she is obsessively in love with me. I can't fuck this up, but in order not to I must suppress all my emotions because the instant I don't I have fucked it up. Fucking women. They just have a way of creeping in. I doubt fags have these issues.

sounds like you're dating likeminded people who are afraid of intimacy and vulnerability. Not exactly a flex, but whatever makes your pickle tickle, bro.

genuinely care about her

sorry op, that never ends well.

I can't be bothered to play these stupid fucking games anymore.

Nah it's the female hypergamy instinct. It can't be helped. 2 weeks into a relationship, 20 years into a relationship. Once you have shown a woman that she has any form of control over you, be it physically, emotionally, mentally, financially, you have demonstrated weakness to her. She will instinctually become less attracted to you and she won't even know why that is. High value traits that you have can make up for this, but eventually she will find someone " "better" (in the sense that he is stronger and more in touch with his masculinity) that she will dump attention into.

Maybe for an illiterate faget

I know it. Maybe I should just break up with her now and go back to the dumb sluts idgaf about. Save myself the dumpster fire that is emotional attachment.

bro, you're like 25 years old and still have the mentality of a high schooler. I'm not going to sit here and argue with you, I'm just telling you that your self-limiting mindset is the reason that you're reduced to dating gold diggers and opportunists lmao

Women are incapable of loving a man. They only "love" what you can do for them.

still have the mentality of a high schooler.

Women don't grow past this. It accurately describes the games required to keep 80% of women to not lose interest.

IDC bro, you're the one living on scraps and pretending to have figured women out. Live your best life nigger.

you marry the one that loves you.

She loves you because she wants something. Once you're married she has what she wants. Dead bedroom. Then divorce rape. You'll figure it out when making those alimony payments for decades.

Kinda like that green square butt it lakes tits.

pretending to have figured women out.

I just listened to the hundreds of divorced guys and men in miserable marriages complaining about women. Few men end up in a happy marriage. It's not a problem with men.

This is a woman posting. That poster your going after said nothing wrong. Why do you get your panties in a bunch over his post? Let me guess, your the "worlds greatest aunt" with only fur-babies to be Superior over and control.

This desu

My ex gf actually loved me more than I loved her.
She said I love you first.
She was obese and has multiple mental health issues.
Honestly half the time I was with her I felt like it was a chore.
She wasn't mean or cruel but she needed a lot of help.
She was always asking me to do this or that for her.
She was generous with gifts and love notes.
I can't even get rid of all the gifts.
She left me because I wouldn't stop confiding in an online female friend.
When I wouldn't respond to her ultimatum she told me to get the fuck out.
Called me crying the next day saying she didn't mean to break up with me.
Then asked for a week to decide.
Now I probably miss her more than she misses me.
I only make 53k so I couldn't really afford to start a family with her.
I was trying but I told her it would take a while to find a small enough house.
She didn't want to wait anymore.
Now she's probably getting plapped while I can only get dates with actual trolls on tinder and it just feels wrong.
I hope she does someone who can give her the life she wants but I really don't know given how fucked up the economy is and she wants 3+ children while being half disabled herself.

Nah man you got me all wrong here. Say that to me again and I'll stab you in the face with a soldering iron

she wants 3+ children while being half disabled herself.

Parasites always love the host more than the host loves the parasite.

Good advice, don't let the zoomers tell you otherwise. I'm probably your age, so I've learned. It isn't settling, you're just not stupid enough to marry a woman who thinks she can make you chase her until she finds someone better. she chases you. Best life advice I took to heart choosing mine.

They're always looking for what more they can get.

Exactly. The moment they think they got your love they want something more, like money.

I need to watch Envy again soon. I love that movie

FLAN!

stopped reading at "she was obese"