Is controlling BPD women as easy as pic related?

What about the lying, betrayal, and physical violence that often accompanies BPD?

All women are insane. OP is a faggot

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there is no such thing as bpd, that's literally just how women are

I've heard you just need to treat women like children, the way children throw tantrums, think unfairly, are rebellious but will respond to a firm voice and the such. It makes a lot of sense when you objectively look at them, maybe some fall outside that area, but from my experience women act like children, they'll need constant attention and repeated validation or else they will want to disappoint you.
So the whole "wait for the tantrum to end and then give them kind words" makes a ton of sense, because when a kid throws a tantrum, you should be attentive but don't react other than neutrally because reacting positively or negatively will reinforce tantrums, once the tantrum has passed you act positively and it'll make them want to make you happy and want to make you proud.

Falun Gong is a retarded gook

This only works if she isn't also a narcissist. If she is then the only option is to walk away from the relationship.

What about the lying, betrayal, and physical violence that often accompanies BPD?

It will never get to that point if you handle it properly in the first place. All the really bad stuff that's been reported from women with BPD is from men who either respond in kind by getting emotional (causing immediate escalation to the lying, betrayal, and physical violence) or who try to reason away their complaints (this is a retarded move no matter what kind of woman you're dealing with; BPD or no, women don't operate on reason and trying to reason with them while they're upset never works).

you shouldn't control anyone

and people with bpd don't change; they will always cycle from loving you to hating you, and the interval will shorten with each one. when they hate you, they're cheating on you, smearing you to everyone, calling the cops saying you raped them and any other insane antisocial behaviors under the sun.

they're the most difficult people to be around, and if you value your own mental health, you run at the first sign of someone with bpd.

Stop making this thread. The answer is it's not worth it. Move on. And stop making this stupid non-political thread.

Can confirm. My gf is diagnosed BPD. Met her when I started working at a new restaurant (I'm a sous chef) and there was this smoking hot girl there who everyone avoided for some reason. I was polite to her and tried to include her in stuff and suddenly she started swooning over me like crazy and we started dating and eventually became a couple.

The first half year or so she kept it pretty civil with minor outburst and the relationship was almost perfect. She's gorgeous and was treating me like I was the perfect bf. Insatiable in terms of sex.

But then she started throwing crazy ass tantrums that were mind-bendingly explosive and destructive. She eventually came clean that she had BPD and I read up on the condition.

The key is to understand that they're terrified of rejection and that their coping strategy is projecting it on you and shit-testing you to see if you still love them or not (because she secretly suspect that you don't). So you gotta meet that with acceptance and love, that's how you disarm them. Then they enter their crying, sad phase and after that their pleasing phase.

I don't mind it. I even look forward to it. It usually goes something like this: she'll get insanely paranoid and angry over nothing. I keep it light and repeat that I love her. If she gets physical I restrain her and sit her down on my lap like, "Shhhh, it's ok baby, I love you, shhhh." After a while she'll burst into to tears. And then she'll get super horny and wants to fuck (post-tantrum sex is the best ever).

Then the when she's calm (usually after sex) I ask her what triggered it and she'll be in a better state to explain it and when I get it she'll reset to trying to please me 24/7. It's like every time I acknowledge something that triggers her BPD, she falls in love with me all over again, and it's proportional to her crazy outbursts.

So it's doable but you have to be a pretty stoic person.

Neurodiversity denialists like you are such retards

Autism isn't real either, all men are train-obsessed porn addict sperglords cuz that's how all males are!

Huh, I thought this whole board was about policing his other people act

are you faggot likes really shilling for dating BPD women? FUCK THAT, avoid these whores like the fucking plague. Don’t breed with dysgenic freaks, let them wither & die; no refunds for feminism.

HAHAHAHAHA

Don’t make me tap the sign….

What if she cheats on you or slanders you?

ll men are train-obsessed porn addict sperglords cuz that's how all males are!

Uhh, kinda

bpd sounds made up, i`m pretty sure all women do this

Honestly this is the best advice. You have to understand that women are psychologically like spoiled six year olds. The best way to deal with their tantrums is to quite simply deny them your attention. Don't respond to threats, tantrums or crying. Do not acknowledge them until the acting out stops and then let them know the behavior will not get the hoped for response. It takes a whole lot of patience but it really does work.

OP is having a good day. I promise you he has bad days with her. BPD is never ending. My mom is in her 60s and drinks mostly. That's the best possible outcome. They become too old to get angry and drink away their misery or wall themselves in somewhere. I feel bad for them. They can improve, but never be healed.

No, it's a real thing.

your children will resent you as a father, and trust me, you will get too old to deal with this shit but you seem to have a lot more patience than most. Still, it'll wear you down. Idk, my father stuck with it, but it really whipped him. Im sure she has whipped you too, I mean you have to be to some extent you can't be assertive and forceful.

all men are train-obsessed porn addict sperglords cuz that's how all males are!

to varying degrees but yes that how all males are

There has been studies, recent ones, showing BPD is just a brain-gut axis disorder. Eating meat and vegetables should be enough to solve it it's not a real disease.

little girls never get abused and molested by adult male/female figures

if we can`t date women that show signs of bpd and narcissism then that severely narrows our dating options likely excluding women entirely. and many of us are simply not gay so it isn`t a option. we can either take the heat or get out of the kitchen

wanting to control others is the sign of a shitty personality. as long as no physical harm is occurring, but that comes under self-defense anyway.

when you deal with shitty people, which is most people with bpd, you can control your own actions. walking from them is usually the best course of action because it's a personality, it's who they are. controlling them means you're now being abusive. yourself.

all men are car-obsessed beer addict edgelords cuz that's how all males are

Ftfy

This is shit advice.

There is no limit to how far a bitch can escalate and the bitches know this. Nothing is off the table, up to and including legally murdering you with the full backing of the state.

If a bitch acts badly toward you, the only defence you have is cutting her the fuck out and going no contact. Even this may not save you.

There is no good reason to voluntarily be around a crazy bitch, EVER!

Imagine taking dating advice from a leaf. How fucking stupid would you have to be?

he's probably an Indian, imagine taking advice from a gypsy, still most likely better than from a native born canadian, if those even exist anymore

Not inaccurate, at least in my experience, but why continue to subject yourself to that constant abuse? it's not worth it, I put up with it for far too long

even if it was, why would you inflict that upon yourself?

I'm not worried. We've been together for 6, 7 years now and aside from the tantrums she's perfect in every single way, or at least for me she is. She's a homebody and she's more worried about me cheating on her (like, all the time) and she's kind of like a kid in the sense that she's amazing, but you have a parental responsibility at all times. She's stuck to me like glue and what sets her off is if I "abandon" her, then she becomes like a lost child in a supermall crying out for her parent.

I can easily see her spiraling if I wasn't willing to be as attentive as I am, or matched her negative emotions. But like I said I'm stoic and I'm addicted to her being addicted to me. And I grew up in a home with a narc mom so I also love her clingyness and that she's so dependent on my love. It's actually the complete opposite to narcissism, they love too much and too intense. Their outbursts and insecurities are similar but the mentality behind it is entirely different and their default is an eagerness to please and exist for you, rather you pleasing and existing for them, as is the case with narcissists. That's how you tell them apart, imo. Someone with BPD will always try to fix the damage they've done, while a narcissist will gaslight you into thinking it's your fault, and then make no efforts at all to fix it.

For example my narc mom would go into these rants about how no one loved me, not even her. My gf goes into same type of rants, almost identical. But whereas my mom never apologized or tried to make amends and doubled down on the mindgames if I tried to resolve later on, my gf claims ownership of her crazy shit and she tries to make amends by acting like the perfect gf and draining my dick non-stop. You just got to get through the emotional rollercoaster. But with my mom there was no rollercoaster, it was just endless abuse and all take and no give.

Guessing your dad dealt with narcissist rather than an actual BPD girl.

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No because the real sweethearts and good people with BPD have what is known as "silent" BPD, where that destructivness is directed inside. I know because I have it.

All the pain and volatility is hidden and hurts the person who has BPD, not other people in their life who most often don't even know they have it

The "BPD woman" isn't shitty for having it, she's shitty for letting the fallout hurt others in her life because she's fundamentally a selfish bitch

I'm also convinced that BPD is more prevalent in general and a lot more guys have it but men are socialized to hide their pain and be self destructive instead

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I would rather say we are in tune with that.

This is the opposite of true.
Kids AND women behave around people that they KNOW will put them in their fucking place. They don't behave around those who don't.

Men will do that too.

May is 100x more of a sperglord than the other two.

This is a bad take, imo. My gf has spells of silent BPD, usually when she's recently had a tantrum and is still in her pleasing phase and tries really hard not to stack her outbursts, and I actually try to trigger fullblown BPD tantrum when she does because it's way better if she vents and gets it out of her system rather than walking around all quiet and pissy and subtly slamming cupboards and loudly putting the dishes away etc. The passive-aggressive shit is 10X worse and never-ending. It's better to just pop the cork on that shit and deal with the mess.

Let me ask you again. What answers are you not getting from the previous threads? What is your motive for posting this over and over? I'm glad you're drawing attention to the fact that the mental health epidemic is a direct symptom of people like you romanticizing the biggest pieces of shit the female gender has to offer. I'll rip you a new asshole next time you post this too

The last bitch I was with was a BPD alcoholic.
She was physically violent often.
I did my best for 3+ months trying to fuck the demons out of her everyday.

Eventually I had to slap her up side her head and send her on her way.
So is life & crazy bitches.
The roids (((they))) put her on later made her get fat.
I pray she is doing okay.

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literally the last bitch I was with.

That's a codependent relationship while you claim you're stoic. You're also a juden nigger.
So it goes with out saying that you both are fucked up.
Yes, your mom is like an Italian or Slavic bitch that thinks
only everyone else's shit is fucked up and they themselves are picture perfect mutts in sub White.
These aren't dissertations these are realities.
It's much like the Slavic Rus frustration on eternal repeat.
Ain't no real man got time for that shit.
But I know sub White parasites take what they can get.

It's not about exercising control, it's about understanding that you have a certain level of dominion over her emotions, and along with it an incumbent responsibility which is important for you to acknowledge. Nobody is afforded any condolences when they get into a relationship with a cripple then act all confused and overwhelmed when they have to wheel them around sometimes.
It's not manipulation. Maybe his source of happiness is more derived from trying to help mend a broken soul; maybe he sees himself as a shattered mosaic of what could have been some kind of personality, and instead of lamenting the broken chaos in front of him, he's decided maybe he can offer the broken bits of himself to others that need them the most. Maybe he's a parts car, but for broken souls; or wishes to see himself as such. Maybe understanding others just as fucked as he is is the only things he's good at

That's a codependent relationship while you claim you're stoic. You're also a juden nigger.

So it goes with out saying that you both are fucked up.

Yeah, I'm not denying it's codependency. I was basically raised from birth to 1) be wired to desperately thirst for love to the point where I don't mind someone super clingy and possessive, but rather see it as a welcome addition in my life, and 2) to calmly deal with the extreme insecurities and anger.

But that's the same for just about any relationship, just a more extreme version of it. We're all trauma bonding on some level and trying to find a partner with a fucked upness that matches ours.

Regarding the rest of your rant it's just an obvious shit-test and it's pretty feminine and emotional overall. I'm honestly not surprised you weren't a good fit for her. I'm guessing you have at least one diagnose yourself?

you are way more than your trauma, and can become much more than even that if you give yourself a chance to grow
instead of seeking the false security of familiar-but-painful situations, try so-called "hedonism" for a while - avoid all pain and strife (including emotional), seek all pleasure
after a while of this you will discover wants and needs you didn't know you had, these will drive you further

as the wife of a bpd angel; i can confirm the op image is mostly accurate

i have some bpd too but it's far milder and i don't really have splitting behavior- she does; and it has happened a few times- but i just try to listen and calm her down during episodes; it always works; sometimes she snaps at me and says something existential that hits me and i can't help but shout "no!" and then she starts to have a turnaround because we both love eachother very much and she kinda starts to realize how she's been acting to me; she has a cry and i comfort her and everything is fine after a little while; back to heavenly loving beautiful codependency

i have never been so happy in my life; same for her- and she has improved dramatically since we first met; we are absolutely made for eachother

tonight we spent several hours together across my pillow just talking and professing our love to eachother

normies/straighties will never have this

she's going to destroy you thoroughly, then cry to the next codependent cuck about how awful you were

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you are delusional
that will never happen

It's very obvious to tell BPD from non BPD apart. Its the female version of autism, most men who're active on Reddit have it too.

It's not like I haven't been in other relationships and have nothing to compare it with. With normie girls, due to my upbringing, I just feel like I need their love way more than they need mine and I feel asymmetrically needy. And as a dude, that's a bad spot to be in. My narc mom left a massive gaping hole that's impossible for a normie girl to fill without feeling completely smothered and suffocated.

With my BPD gf that's never an issue. That very hole is what gives her abundance of love space to exist without spiraling into fullblown craziness. Like I said, I don't think many guys could cope with someone as clingy as a loving BPD girl, and the rejection makes them spiral. But for me it's like, "Oh you wanna suck my dick and fuck me while I'm watching sports because the TV competes with my attention? Want me to rub your back for hours because it makes you feel anxious if you don't get physical touch? Want to fondle my hair so I don't forget you exist? You get mad if we don't go to bed together or shower together or brush our teeth together or eat together because it feels like you're getting abandoned? Hell, yeah. Got any more of that? Are you feeling anxious, baby? That's ok, I really wanna watch this show, but you can crawl into my lap and bounce on my dick while I do, you are so much sweeter than my fucking mom, she never paid me any attention."

tonight we spent several hours together across my pillow just talking and professing our love to eachother

normies/straighties will never have this

True.

and then it's

sure you're rubbing my back, but you're also doing something else, you don't love me!

sure I just kept you up half the night with my psychobabble but now it's morning, be cute and cuddly to me and don't go to work because I need more reassurance RIGHT NOW, OR I'M GOING OUT THE WINDOW THE MOMENT YOU GO OUT THE DOOR

and so on and so tiresomely forth