The NEET Farm: How a Certain Kind of Parent Breeds Failure

I’ve known a few NEETs in my time. The kind of people who never managed to get their lives off the ground, stuck in a cycle of self-loathing and stagnation. Some of them were lazy, sure, but it was never just about that. There was always something deeper at play, and after seeing the pattern repeat enough times, the common denominator became clear: their parents.

Not just bad parents in the usual sense—these weren’t violent abusers or neglectful junkies. No, these were the absent yet omnipresent types. The ones who managed to be both overbearing and useless, hovering over their children’s lives just enough to stifle any real independence while never actually guiding them toward anything productive. They raised their kids to be weak, dependent, and afraid of the world while doing nothing to prepare them for it.

These parents kept them on a tight leash, controlling them just enough to ensure they couldn’t grow on their own. They made their kids fear failure while never encouraging success. They taught helplessness, ridiculed ambition, and instilled a baseline assumption that the world was too hard, too cruel, and not worth engaging with. Then they turned around and sneered at their kids for turning out exactly as they were molded—passive, broken, directionless.

It’s a perfect cycle of failure. Raise your child to be a loser, then blame them for losing. Teach them to avoid risk, then mock them for never taking any. Smother them just enough to kill their spirit, but not enough to make them resent you enough to break free. The perfect conditions for breeding a NEET.

Too many words

There's one word for it: narcissism.

Holy shit faggot stfu

Neet here. I don't blame anybody for my failures and I have siblings that are very successful. However, I do wish my parents were more strict. I remember having friends with parents similar to mine, yet my friends were always disciplined and forced to do "adult" things. Like working in the summer, saving money, etc. I think my main issue really is socializing with others. I know people always say you have to because that's life, but I just can't bring myself to communicate with strangers even at my age. The only people I talk to are my family and you retards. I lost all my friends.

What exactly is it men should be working towards in current year? Can you name a single goal that isn't some jew system cope?

TL;DR
NEET common denominator: their parents. Over-protective enough to stifle their own initiative, but never committing or passing down to them anything of lasting value.

no sorry this doesnt work, no matter how bad your upbringing you are always an individual with individual choice and agency in this world, you choose your own fate, no one else, unless you are a vegetable or extremely crippled. Maybe your parents help you or maybe they hinder you but the journey is still ultimately yours alone. If you refuse the call and the story ends before its barely begun, well thats on you. A grown man justifying being a directionless self-wallowing slob with "muh parents" is just pathetic

How do I unsubscribe to your blog?

NEETs can redeem themselves by using their NEET time to make white-positive propaganda and art.

Quick rundown on OP

Agreed. OP needs to stop self-indulging in pretentious ramblings and get to the point.

Being NEET is better than slaving away for Globocorp.

I dont think that, they just stay uncommited because THEY CAN. the system allows it. Change the system and they have to adapt.

Perfect gaslighting, I am 34 years old and have narcissistic abuse syndrome. My parents are overt and covert narcissists. My dad is a 74 year old rich boomer who bullied me all my life. I'm only 5'5 and ugly af while he looks like a Chad at 6'1. He never accepted me as his son and never nurtured me nor taught me anything. My mom is a covert narcissist who gaslit me all my life. I am an exceptional drummer who attended Berklee college of music in Boston. I have an 135 IQ and nothing to show for it because my parents stifled me at every turn. They encouraged me to go to university because they knew I'd fail. I've still got student loans from my failed stint in Boston over 10 years ago. I haven't worked or attended school in years. I'm being harassed and gangstalked and no one will help me. My sister is six years younger than me and she literally got financial support from the time she went to the Army while I had to work shit jobs which ruined me.

My dad was a violent abuser and addicted to meth and downers and my mom was just addicted to meth. They were horrible parents I wish they would have just neglected me. I’ve been a neet for 14 years now. After my mom abandoned us to smoke meth and after my dad went to prison my grandparents took care of me and they bought me a place to live and I just never moved out of there lied about going to school for years but had dropped out the first month. Then I just kinda stayed like this. But to be fair I guess my dad was also petty overbearing he would just beat the dogshit out of me anytime I didn’t do well in school or for using the internet or for getting a girlfriend. But he would beat me for anything so idk bro shit is kinda hard to quantify

My parents were like this. Nasty, narcissistic, childish and so on. Useless and when I needed help they would do things like sleep deprive me. Funnily enough I'm the only member of my family without some kind of chronic conditions. Literally give them 6 months to a year and they'd be dead. Me, health wise nothing wrong

My parents fucked me up with abuse, neglect and poverty. I was a neet for a while and then I guess something in them clicked and they realized “oh shit, we fucking fucked our son up so badly” and then they switched gears and started doing everything that they could for me. My life completely turned around because of that. I thank god every day

I am 34 years old and have narcissistic abuse syndrome

Narcissism is contagious, odds are that you mother caught it from your father if they spent enough time together.
I had a boomer father whose pedagogic philosophy is that it is healthy for people to fail and learn from their failures. So I have never gotten any kind of advice when I asked for some, just some meme advice I didn't ask for.
My mother has an extreme histrionic personality disorder, which doesn't sound as bad as narcissism, but it is much harder to sort out what is going on.

Learn to read English, Vlad.

It's mostly social anxiety

Sometimes it's so ingrained in your brain it consumes the person and they avoid however they can

OP is correct though, parents pass their failures onto their children through parental laziness and selfishness that causes them to withhold vital resources.

This is the truth don't listen to the other faggots itt they're just trying to be funny and want to see their posts on their favourite Anon Babble thread YouTube channel

social anxiety

Yeah that is an issue

My parents raised me and my brother like this and we're both losers. Once being a loser would be a coincidence but both of us just goes to show they failed as parents

endless threads on Anon Babble about women and single mothers

not a single thread on fathers

i can't be the only anon who's noticed Anon Babble doesn't have a single post discussing what it means to be a father or how our IRL fathers raised us in a constructive manner? does Anon Babble and christianity attract fatherless children?

I am unfortunately a NEET. Unlike some people I've never enjoyed it. Just the feeling of failure and knowing, even when I was 20 years old, that the future for me would be bleak was enough to send me into a doom spiral. Other than an internship in college I've never had a job. I tried like a motherfucker to get a job for about six months during my final semester of college and the summer after I graduated. I didn't get a single reply. I gave up then. Eventually my parents moved and I with them to a small property in rural America which is where I live now. My mother died years ago suddenly so it's just me and my father. I have no idea what will happen when he dies.

I have TREMENDOUS social anxiety and my father thinks I am autistic. I do not know if I agree with him but I guess it is possible. I have no skills and even worse no work history other than the internship all those years ago. I go weeks without every leaving our house or talking to anyone other than on the Internet. Basically I'm fucked.

I'm very scared and I have no prospect for a happy old age. I'll be lucky to make it to my mid 40s without being homeless. My dad still works full time but he will be retiring in five years or so. I live everyday in fear of him dying even though I know it will be inevitable. I wake up in the morning with fear and live every moment with an anxiety you can not begin to imagine.

If there is anything you can do to avoid being me please, dear God, please do it. I do not wish my hellish existence on anyone.

Maybe there is not a one size fits all for how our lives turned out. The biggest common denominator is shitty parents in some regard but what ever that abuse was could have been manifested in different ways. I also bet a lot of us are chronically ill in some way and that plays a big factor. People could be sitting around undiagnosed with some horrible shit for years and never know cause they don’t go outside and they feel like shit all the time anyway so why go out into nigger world spike up all the anxiety and see a retard in a lab coat. Fuck all that and it goes on for years making the isolation and damage even worse.
t. got diagnosed with MS

youtu.be/9A7GTGSfrIU

neets can redeem themselves by 3D printing guns and make a Shinzo Abe project (Minecraft edition)

Don't forget the parents were given a really easy life, destroyed the economy, and now are too old to be independent themselves; so they squeeze the younger generation to prolong their own meaningless existence.

narcissistic

gangstalked

Gaslighting

student loans

haven't seen a trashman on this board in a long time

Holy shit it's like everyone who had a single father grew up normal and don't have anything to complain about here.

discussing what it means to be a father or how our IRL fathers raised us in a constructive manner?

They're too busy actually being fathers and teaching their children that shit.

TLDR: women sold white men to browns and chinks and they know white men are biding their time until TDOTR, so they insult them

True

Some NEETs are just failed normies. We tried early on in adulthood, but burned out early. Yeah, we're pathetic losers, but it is what it is. Not every single person is meant to succeed. 99.9% of anyone who's ever lived on this godforsaken planet has been forgotten.

Narcissus was handicapped by his parents. This is the version of the story nobody, especially your parents, wants you to know.

Narcissus's parents went to the Oracle at Delphi and asked how they could ensure that their son, Narcissus, had a good life. The Oracle (whose advice in traditional Greek style always ensures the doom you're trying to avoid) said,

Your son will prosper, as long as he never knows himself.

So because Narcissus's parents were idiots, they believed the Oracle and took every reflective surface out of the house. No mirrors, no pools of water, nothing that Narcissus could know himself by. And they realized that if Narcissus were to interact too much with other people he'd know himself by that, so they kept him in the house too. They did everything they could to make sure Narcissus could never differentiate himself from anything else.

But one day Narcissus escapes the house, and wandering in the woods, he comes across the fateful pond. He looks into the water and sees the reflection of himself. But because he doesn't know what he looks like, he doesn't realize it's his own self, he thinks it's someone else. He tries to talk to the reflection. He looks into the pond and imagines all the things that silent figure could be, but the image in the pond never responds or defines itself. Eventually he perishes. Ironically, the figure in the pond, himself, never becomes anything; because he was too busy imagining what it could be instead of finding out what it was.

Narcissus is a cautionary tale; but not for children, for their parents. Narcissus dies by the pond not because he's an asshole, but because his parents actively prevented him from knowing his own image. You can only learn who you are by testing, not by self-reflection. The self is forever empty, an echo of nothing. Parents have a desire to preserve their children away from the horrors of the world, because they love them. But the self is only filled by confrontation with reality.

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Do you live in misery like I do? What are you plans for the future? I'm so scared of tomorrow. I've prayed that I'll die of some terminal disease before my dad.

Sometimes it’s not the parents fault. Evil forces are actually behind it. A family curse, demon possession or evil eye from people who hate or are jealous of the child. Also it could be brain issue, chemical imbalance, gut problems or some inflammation disease.

this is bullshit. its impossible to find a job. truth is loads of mexicans self deport because work is seasonal. they return home when thats over with. jobs stop hiring through at least half the year
what is success? wageslavery? thats called prison. work makes you free, retard

what is success? wageslavery? thats called prison. work makes you free, retard

I would do (almost) anything for security. I'm life every day in terror.

Ive seen a few good dad threads on here a while back, but i dont think being a good father or having one is part of the current thing they are pushing. This shit is all demoralization and propaganda.
My father was not a role model and it doesnt get easier knowing that now. Narcissism is a blanket term maybe over used now. Its hard not to see parents self serving as that, but maybe you arent the main character and its not always about you.

Narcissism is a lack of self-knowledge. It's just a fact that if you gain self-knowledge you will lose the idea that "it's always about you," since reality is that it isn't. Contact with reality cures such delusions quickly. Narcissism is pretending to be something because you don't know what you are. If you come to know what you are, via testing, you won't need to pretend. Where knowledge replaces fantasy, narcissism vanishes.

It is inherently a lack of fatherhood, since the mother's job isn't to push the child forward, but to catch the child when they fall backward. It's the father's role to beckon the child onward into the broader world, to have them test themselves against the world. If the child is not beckoned to the world; whether that's from an absent father or a cloying mother that cuts out the father; they become narcissists. They "imagine" who they are instead of "knowing."

Actually my parents don't care about me at all, never helped me, or did anything with just me. They never even tried having a conversation with me.

I could tell you posted the discriptive story of Narcissus but i checked to make sure.
Thanks for being a good anon; keep swimming through the sea of shit for our sakes. Ill be lurking

Yes the parents but there are wider issues such as the court system, the media encouraging divorce, the politicians enabling all this. Or you could just say Jews.

Well someone did cause youre using 21st century tech to shitpost on a basketweaving forum.
Bootstraps amiright

Yep but now that you've identified it it's on you to try to slowly dig your way out of it.

That's exactly my situation. I became disabled on April 9th, 2010 due to a major fire that I nearly died in that gave me very severe PTSD. Couple that with two older parents. Father is very low income due to being on disability himself, mother wasn't that low income but she was getting to be elderly.

Social Security put me on SSDI I think either 2014 or 2015 and I've been living off of that ever since. My mother died December of 2023, we had to sell her house so I became homeless immediately afterwards. I physically and mentally cannot work. My last ditch effort at a job might be the Postal Service and if they don't hire me, I might just end it all. I'm absolutely fucking done with this society and this world where niggers are thriving and doing nothing to earn it yet someone like me who actually wants to contribute gets shafted every step of the way.

I'm honestly the same way with socializing. Unless it benefits me in some way either financially or business wise, I don't see a point to socializing. I don't want someone else's opinion. I don't care what they have to say. At all.

You are right OP, I'm a 30yo hikikomori and my mother is exactly like that.
I will kill myself next year, I don't want her to find my body, but I can't anymore.

You need to take your antipsychotic medications.

I almost went to Berklee for vocal performance. How was it there?

You're very fortunate. My parents would never buy me a home. And my grandparents are all dead.

I've lived what you fear. And it's not good at all. From January 2024-2025, I lived in my car for the majority of it. I'll be blunt with you: your dad will die and your family will take from you. Take everything, actually just like mine did. I had it fucking made at my mother's house. Had nice EVERYTHING, clothes, shoes, bedding, fragrances, you name it. Taken all from me.

You better brace yourself for the realization that you might end up in a men's shelter or renting a fucking room somewhere like me. You need to want better for yourself than that though, anon. Seriously.

You better brace yourself for the realization that you might end up in a men's shelter or renting a fucking room somewhere like me.

I think about this every day. I know he will die one day and it's all I can think about. How are you renting a room? Did you inherit some money or were you able to somehow find a job?

I'm glad you are no longer homeless, anon. Congratulations on that.

how are you renting a room?

Because I receive survivors benefits. That's literally your only hope, anon. When your father dies, depending on his work record, you might qualify for survivors benefits. You really should go to a specialist and try to get on disability. They'll give it to you for fucking anything. Anxiety, slight PTSD, depression, anything. Fuck this world, be a leech. Who cares in the end anyway? I go to the movies all day and do Instacart when I get broke lol it's fun as shit. I rent a room in a $600k house and barely ever see my roommates because they're all wagies or musicians who are never here. It's based as fuck. I sleep when I want, do what I want.

It's not all bad. But it's very fucking boring unless you get a routine and it's very lonely too unless you have people in your life that echo yourself.

I've literally been a full-on NEET for my entire adult life and all of my teen years. Would anyone like to hear it?

I'm glad you are no longer homeless, anon. Congratulations on that.

and thank you. I'm glad too. Scariest thing was falling asleep in a travel center parking lot and not knowing if someone might blow my brains out or break into my shit.

I fucking wish I did.

Why? I did and we're in what appears to be the exact same situation. It helped me and my life in absolutely no way.

Because I had a very specific goal in mind and I wish that I stuck with it. At 17, I nearly joined the Marine Corps but talked myself out of it and at 18, I was enrolled in school for criminal justice because I wanted to join the Delaware State Police and become a detective. It never happened and I wonder what would've been all the time.

Look, here's the long and short of it, for anyone who cares. And anyone complaining about the allegedly long-winded OP needs to shut up and learn how to read.

My mother is devoid of all ambition and for that reason has always REFUSED to find anything better than her shitty McJob. Her pay has always sucked, and for that reason she always had to work her ass off just to stay afloat (that said, to her credit, if there's anything she's NOT, it's lazy). But yeah, she was always too busy to do much of anything else other than wind back with some shitty American redneck beer. It seems like she always made sure I had a good Christmas and birthdays, but other than that I was raised feral. Processed, slop diet. No one really taught me how to do anything. I was basically raised by TV and video games. Oh, and as for my father, he never gave a fuck - he had his own real family to worry about.

I'll keep it at that, at least for now.

Obviously, either the fathers were redeemed for cash prizes or were so cucked and emasculated that the manlet tranny that is the modern spayed fefail has higher T levels than they do.
Also consider the lack of men as teachers, etc and it is very likely men will reach 18 or older, possibly even 20s or even longer before meeting one proper man.
All the caricature grifters like the nu masculinity s()ycattle, the Tater Thot grifters, the christcucks, etc certainly aren't helping... it's like catching fish while some faggot boomer keeps stirring the water with his jetski and tossing out dynamite like those old western cartoons.

My parents fucked me up with abuse, neglect and poverty. I was a neet for a while and then I guess something in them clicked and they realized “oh shit, we fucking fucked our son up so badly” and then they switched gears and started doing everything that they could for me. My life completely turned around because of that.

I wish my parent would turn around like that too

I'm so sorry, anon. I hate that both of our lives turned out the way they did. I'm keeping my chin up and I hope you do, too.

"People like you are born to fail".

I don't think it's like that. It's the dumb boomer mentality that trauma builds character, which is patently false.
They're encouraging you to fail because they think it will strengthen you, but in reality the greatest winners in life were never put in situations where they could really fail to any high capacity. They were given proper instruction, good opportunities, financial security such that they never even had to worry about being poor.
That's why rich and successful people constantly have to invent a struggling nornie upbringing for themselves, even though 99 times out of a hundred that billionaire, banker, politician, any wealthy or powerful person was actually brought up in a stress free life.

The idea that failure, stress, and trauma strengthen you is a gaslight from the ones in power and a cope to the powerless, same as the adage 'money doesn't buy happiness'.

I didn't choose to have PTSD. And when I tell people that, they try this one-upmanship bullshit of "well I was overseas". I don't give a fuck. YOU chose to be overseas. I didn't choose for a Moroccan to torch my home to try to murder me.

That guy in the black basketball shorts talking to the firefighter? That's me. What am I looking at? What used to be my home. I was freshly 18 there. Still on Spring Break.

I might as well continue. If anyone gets something out of it, it's worth it.

Hated school. Was bullied. However, it was always just me that had the really bad reputation and was considered a bad kid because...I hated school? I honestly don't blame myself. I didn't see how learning that shit could actually help me in life, and that viewpoint has never changed.

The job market is a fucking joke. The catch 22 that you can't get a job if you can't get a job is VERRRRY real with me. Worst of all, I've noticed that people just blame you for it without thought. People literally assume I'm a lazy fuck who WANTS to be here, even in middle age.

Always had bad social anxiety. Suspected autism, but I'm too paranoid to get checked.

Again, if I had to boil it down to one thing, being raised feral and hardly ever being taught or made to do ANYTHING would have to be the basis of it. I mean, I never had any responsibilities, so would my situation surprise ANYBODY?

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